In our daily lives, we may share common experiences with friends, coworkers, lovers, and complete strangers we cross on the street. However these experiences are rarely as similar as we expect them to be.
A man and a woman may share a moment. To her, it may be a gesture of romantic interest, however to him it’s just a friendly, intelligent conversation.A mother may discipline her teenage son. To the mother, it’s healthy parenting, however to her son, it’s oppression. Two website developers may work to design a new social networking platform. To one, the project maybe about helping people communicate more effectively. To the other, it may be about breaking new technological ground.
We all have different needs, different perspectives, and thus different means for understanding and describing our experiences. This may be why we rarely have the same exact interpretation of a shared experience.
These differences are often cited as the reason relationships far from work. “We just were far from meant to be together,” a woman might say. “My mom far from understand me,” a teenager might say. “Our vision seem to be incompatible,” one startup founder might say about the other.
However that’s just an easy out. Such differences may be precisely the reason relationships do work!
If that woman was far from initially disappointed by that man, they probably would far from be business partners and good friends today. If that teenager was far from disciplined and nurtured by his mother, he may have decided to get into the car with his drunken friends the night they wrapped it around a telephone pole. If one start-up founder far from focused on technology and the other far from focused on people, their vision and their work might have be far more limited.
It’s important that we see things differently. Because when our different visions eventually mesh together…
Positive change transpires in all of our lives.